Funerals and memorials

Funerals

Your relationship with me will probably begin with a short phone call. You can contact me directly or ask a funeral director to contact me on your behalf. Funeral directors often recommend celebrants they know, but if you know a celebrant you would like to use you are always able to ask.

We will make a time to meet that suits you and your family. This meeting is usually at your home. During that time, we will discuss the format of the funeral. We will also talk a lot about the person who has died. From the chronological and factual details, to the less tangible elements of their spirit and personality.

You might have a strong idea about how you would like the funeral to proceed or you might be looking to me for guidance and suggestions. I can act as a simple guide and coordinator, or I can create the entire ceremony. 

From there, I will work with you and other relevant family and friends to create and coordinate the service. Working closely with family members and friends, I can write a eulogy for you, help you to prepare one, or give you some simple advice and techniques. I also work closely with the funeral director as we ensure that the service truly reflects the spirit of the person who has died.

On the day of the funeral, depending on what we have planned I will either conduct the funeral service or support you as you do it with your family and friends. Throughout the day, I will work closely with the funeral director to make sure you feel fully supported.

Memorial services

A memorial service is usually held some time after the death. Sometimes it is a stand-alone service, and other times it is an additional service held after the funeral.

There are many reasons you might want to have a memorial. One of the most common is when a person was living interstate or overseas, but you want to hold another service for friends and family who couldn’t be there. There are many other reasons people hold a memorial service. if it was a sudden or unexpected death you might need time to think about what you want to do, so decide to have the burial or cremation then hold the ceremony at a later time. Perhaps an important person was travelling overseas or couldn’t be there for some reason so you want to hold a service that includes them. Often, people will have a smaller ceremony for the interment of ashes. 

I conduct many memorial services and can help you not only with writing and leading the service but other logistical details such as recommending venues and providing my own PA equipment.